It was in the year 2009, at the Eastern Regional Capital of Ghana, Koforidua where i chanced on this e-book that was to leave me with a lot of unanswered questions. A Venusian Arts handbook, authored by one who prefers to be known only as Mystery. He captioned the book, ........ THE MYSTERY METHOD, How to Put Beautiful Women Under Your Spell.
The author outlines a step-by-step approach to luring women into one's fold and playing on their susceptibility to eventually have them screaming in his arms while warming his bed. I do not agree with him on his ultimate aim, getting as many women into bed as possible without necessarily having a lifelong relationship with them. I do however agree with him on the seemingly evident yet ignored features and inborn instincts that drive our social interactions which his masterpiece, at least in the opinion of Venusian artists, seeks to espouse. You may want to read if for yourself. Just send me an e-mail requesting the book and i will mail it to you.
Although i agree with his proposals, which i admit have worked for me in one situation, i rather think winning a woman over and starting a courtship process with her is only a means to an end, but not an end in itself.
It is a means to an end, far more dignifying than the means itself. It is the beginning of a process that seeks to honour the command given by God Almighty in Genesis 1:28..............And God blessed them and said unto them, be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth and subdue it............................
The main purpose of life?
Survival and Replication. As simple as that. We need to survive, and even so, replicate for the purposes of continuity. In medieval times, physical strength was the much needed requisite for survival. Women then admired men of great stature and physique. This was needed not only to protect them from harm by predators, but it was also needed for hunting. Did you notice the two words here? Protection and Hunting.
Today, these same features are the ones women look out for in men but in a modified way, since the women we see today are a result of years of evolution. Of course today, physical protection isn't much needed as is hunting. But the question here is has the motive changed? The approach has obviously changed because of time but not the rationale. Every woman needs a man who can offer him security. Financial security here is the first they look out for. Second is your ability to inseminate and set the procreation process in motion. Never underestimate that. Your physical strength here, is needed for sex.
Hunting is no longer common, except for fun or perhaps in villages near forest areas, but today your ability to put food on the table is desired by the women much. So the men, we have to be more hardworking.
These are just needed to get the woman. And my disagreement with Venusian artists arise when their argument seems to suggest that the whole process ends here.
It behoves on all of us, lovers of nature, to care more about what happens after the courtship process rather than concentrate on the events that lead to it, no matter how exciting and intriguing it is.
Now i have her. What next?
As said earlier, the courtship process is fascinating, exciting and intriguing. It is one of the few situations that are able to play on almost all our human emotions...........love, jealousy, fear, hatred, anger, happiness.
But as has been proven time and again, excitement is but for a moment.
Getting the dream woman or man is not enough. Keeping him, is also not enough. To me, making a couple whose relationship will not only lead to the continuity of life, but also raise children who will become responsible members of society, children whose actions and inactions will not seek to destroy but preserve nature is the ultimate
Let us not think too much of the means. The end is much more important.
Lifelong relationships are much more rewarding and fulfilling than mere sexual encounters.
